Here are a few ways out

1) Seek out positive messages

  • Spend time reading, watching or listening to things that inspire you and give you hope. Don’t settle for fluffy messages though. Keep an eye out for positive but realistic messages. Fluffy messages might make you feel good in the moment, but they’re not your friend in the long-run. They can lead you down the wrong path.

2) Give yourself an outlet

  • Write down your thoughts in a journal. Actually, you don’t even need a journal. You can just grab a piece of paper and write down everything you’re thinking. Then rip it up and throw it in the garbage…


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Remember to do what brings you peace. Don’t chase after the world’s nut. In the world people chase after the same nut and divide it up amongst themselves, thinking they are rich. But most people are poor in spirit, because they are too busy chasing after the world’s nut. Don’t be a slave to your ego, be a slave to contentment.

In other words, don’t sacrifice inner peace in pursuit of money, power, reputation, etc. You don’t have to be like everyone else or do what everyone else is doing. …


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Somewhere along the way someone probably told you that you were no good. And somewhere along the way someone probably had good things to say about you. So why should you default to the negative? If you are going to live in the past you might as well make it a good one.

Better yet, why not stop measuring your worth based on the opinions of others? You are not who other people say you are and you are not who other people say you are going to be.

If we stopped worrying so much about what other people think…


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Don’t give up on trying to find balance in your life. Stick to your priorities. Remember what’s most important to you and do every thing you can to put yourself in a position where you can focus on those priorities, rather than being pulled by the expectations of others.

It’s easy to get caught up in the expectations of others. To know what to do sometimes you have to distance yourself from others. You need to know how to be alone sometimes in order to know how to be around others.

The world is mad with a lot of mad…


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Our health has a lot to do with managing our level of stress. In particular, we tend to spend a lot of time and energy stressing over money and material possessions.

We need money in order to survive, and some stress is normal (even healthy), but where we get into trouble is when we spend too much time and energy trying to obtain things that we don’t really need. We end up sacrificing some of the more important things that we have (health, relationships) in order to obtain things we think will make us happier, but usually don’t.

Our health…


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There once was a man who was very quiet. Because of his quietness, people thought the man lacked confidence. His quietness made others feel uncomfortable.

One day, a lady asked the man why he was so shy.

“Shy?” The man replied. “I’m not shy at all.”

“But you hardly say anything”, the woman replied. “Why don’t you come out of your shell, we won’t bite you.”

“I’m not quiet because of fear”, said the man. “I’m quiet because this is the natural state of man. It’s those who insist on a lot of chatter who are truly afraid. They’re afraid…


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We don’t always have what we want, but we usually have what we need. Things usually don’t turn out the way we imagine they will, but they usually turn out the way they should.

Take it one day at a time, deal with what’s in front of you right now instead of focusing on what hasn’t happened. Right now is the only thing happening and this may be where it ends. If you make the most of the present you will also make the most of your future.

It’s good to have goals and a vision for the future, but…


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Most of us don’t like silence, because it forces us to confront ourselves. And sometimes what we find staring back is emptiness.

We’re also afraid of silence, because we equate silence with insignificance. We want to be heard and seen. We want to make ourselves relevant. We want to be somebody in the eyes of others.

The desire to make ourselves feel relevant can be very strong. But in our quest to be heard and noticed and thought well of by others we often drown out our inner voice.

We’re constantly in search of something we already have. We already…


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The less you own, the less you have to take care of.

The less you own, the less you have to replace.

The less you own, the less money you need to earn.

The less you own, the more time you have for other things (and people).

The less you own, the less things you need to protect.

It’s not always easy to want less, but we’re capable of doing it. It starts with appreciating what we already have.

While we’re thinking about what we don’t have, we’re forgetting about what we do have. We have more than we usually…

Dan Pedersen

Father, Writer, Investor, creator of Personal Growth publication. Writing mostly to myself, sharing some of it with you, hope it helps.

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